Archive note: The text comes from the old file of the Legal Selectmen and is carefully preserved for historical and informative reading.

The marriage is doctrinally characterized as a sacrament (theological point of view) and is solemnized in the presence of a competent local priest with a fee, deductions for third parties (Diocese), without VAT! Even the marriage is formalized in the presence of an elected local lord (Mayor) with tampons and seals, like any commercial contract (political point of view).

No one escapes the power dipole. If you perform a wedding in a tavern or cafe for the church you will be cursed and ex-synagogue for the state illegal. Fore deep and back stream. In other words, you have lost from the locker room! There is a middle ground...I'm sitting on my eggs.

"Marriage is the union of a man and a woman and the conclusion of all life, a divine and human right society". Legal and social point of view (Herennius Modestinus).

According to the prevailing opinion, marriage still remains at the same time a union and a mystery, which usually turns into torture! There is a wealth of relevant jurisprudence. We usually resort to it after the wedding. Then the damage is already done. Mistakes are paid. "You didn't know, didn't you ask?" The world murmurs.

What is it that leads two people, loved during their free relationship, to turn into two rivals who claim either to impose on each other, or to own each other's property, or the children that are the creation of both, is and remains an unanswered question. Sometimes the atrocity of people emerges to such an extent that it even becomes the purpose of one or the other's life and wants to annihilate him, flatten him and destroy him (homo homini lupus).

Marriage has been characterized as a necessary evil. It might be. Better to regret something you did than something you didn't do, the married claim and spread (and I agree), teasing the singles who admittedly show exemplary leniency, whistling almost indifferently, the “mangouffs”.

The dance holds up well. Wise people liken marriage, Winter to a lottery ticket and Summer to a watermelon! In case of failure, which is the rule, they say ..bite the watermelon! According to serious research, statistically, out of 100 marriages, 45% have divorced, 40% are unable to divorce, and only 15% are considered successful marriages! Let them go.

It is important that according to the claims of singles, married people face various cohabitation problems that they would not have if they were single. Then why are they getting married? Let's not look for it. Vicious circle. A free interpretation based on Darwin's evolutionary theory is that... we are apes! Since everyone is getting married ... will I be an exception? The "shelf" that threatens the singles also plays its role, as if the married people sit at the first table!

There are also opposing approaches. Eros, love, companionship, increase in births, etc. until everything becomes "pink". Has marriage finally turned into a superficial search for economic interests in general or social exchanges? Regardless of all this, the crisis that marriage is going through nowadays is irreversible given the social and political rut that pulls everything down.

However, it takes virtue and courage to be a freer person, "uncomplicated" with a big heart and open ears and eyes!

However, the Church and the State use marriage as a restrictive term (mantroma) of the free person. The condemnation, when one climbs the steps of the church or the town hall, is certain and unanimous. The sentence in the past was life. Today there are "unequivocal" legal remedies (divorce) that suspend the execution of the sentence, until a second marriage takes place. Bad lies, but the so-called strong sex (well-behaved boys) is not as strong as it seems and thinks. He will always be looking for his mother, good or bad. If by hope he finds her, then he "wins a golden watch", because maybe it wasn't worth it.

Unfortunately, we were raised and taught to live with many myths surrounding marriage, such as the myth of blood relationship, motherhood, paternity and so on. But let us consider how many brothers have killed each other out of selfish interest for things of insignificant value, such as for a piece of land or for a studio apartment with a skylight window!

Classic symbolism Cain and Abel. Next is the main meal with lentils that the pambonirian Jacob gave to Esau his brother and guardian, with an "equal exchange" for the first fruits? In other words, with a plate of lentils he "took it all and left"! The agreement, however, after annulment, was deemed invalid by the supreme court of annulment as abusive (excessive). On the grounds that Jacob obviously and with direct deceit took advantage of his brother's deafness, inexperience and above all HUNGER! In a reference to the manuscript of the decision it was noted that "blood does not become water".

I believe that no one spoke to us and told us correctly, pastorally and responsibly that the relationships that result from marriage (kinship, fatherhood, motherhood, etc.) are not given and self-evident but must be proven and confirmed at every opportunity. It doesn't mean that since you gave birth to me, you are also a good parent. I can't bear to be tortured for a lifetime with "your love". Anyway, we don't choose our parents or our siblings. "A friend harmful enemy is called" remains an insurance policy. Virtue and courage and above all sacrifices are required to carve like marble a balanced, free relationship between relatives regardless of rank, based on real love and mutual respect, which "said together" is not imposed, it IS EARNED. Any objections are leniently rejected as paralyzing and above all as unacceptable.

However, I dare and propose with reason of knowledge.

When children turn 20 years old, to symbolically "kill" their parents. It is better to fight their life and their childhood traumas alone, "away" from the parents. Without the mindless display of power, heightened sense of ownership, damaging overprotection, and gut-wrenching moral extortions (you've killed me, you're going to kill me, I'm dying!) of their parents that stunts normal development and delays or permanently cancels their maturity. I abhor this futile recycling that produces bullies, mommies and future mothers of the life style, besides it is "raining" and green nails scratching purple hair! "Make it yourself, be a craftsman"!

Don't forget that the most serious crimes are committed out of "love", so for our good. The concentrated insanity "I killed you because I can't live without you" is known.

The church that characterizes marriage as a sacrament prohibits, among other things, and punishes premarital sex, applying "the ordinances of fornication" mentioned in the Old and New Testament, which have not yet been amended! Mr. Venizelos did not have time to be reprimanded and for this, after the immunity of the MPs, he stumbled and fell close to 12%, to his horror.

Why should they be modified, after all, were they ever observed? The more prohibitions, the more sins that are expunged from the criminal record (forgiven) with lucrative benedictions and expensive indulgences that successfully replaced the sacrifices and mass slaughter of lambs. "The salvation of the soul is a very great thing" says the saying of the time.

We who gave birth to Olympius the cloud-raiser, the barbarian Jupiter, who "jumped" whatever was in motion, will we be stuck in the New Testament? Fortunately, the Church does not excommunicate "prostitutes" and most importantly, along with the other documents required for marriage, it does not ask for a certificate of virginity from the newlyweds. Pharisaism has imposed the presumption of virginity. After all, no one knows what the cassock and the wedding dress hide underneath. Who's kidding who? After all, "a wedding takes place, eat, drink"! And woe to you ... unbelievers, the marmaga will eat you, we say so for the fear of the Jews! Since it is certain that fear guards the desert ...

During my adolescence, I will never forget the quarrel I had with a friend of mine, who was a strict Christian. May his mother beware, the mellow goddess with the bronze censer who sedated us, like bees when they are smoked to get their honey... When I asked him if sex before marriage is a sin, he answered affirmatively, almost killing me. I clarify that the discussion was purely theoretical (academic) since we weren't having sex then anyway, we were just “looking for footprints and not the lion”!

In order that I might not sin (the unborn!) my friend, with a lot of love and care I would say, suggested that I cover the nights I slept with more clothes, blankets, quilts, etc.! The heat according to his words would cause ...sexual relief! This is what he had learned in catechism! Come on, back then we didn't have many clothes to cover ourselves with and instead of getting warm we got cold! In the end, all roads led to "palmistry" and "ergochiro"!

In the village where I was born and grew up, marriage was concluded after a hard bargain (bargain) with a dollar clause! And for this reason (financial) according to reliable research it remained stable. Then came love and made them crazy! Those who truly loved were disappointed or lost. "In this place those who love eat dirty bread and their lusts follow an underground route", I have heard them sing meaningfully.

The contacts to "sit" the co-worker started after the active and substantial mediation of the matchmaker who did not belong to a professional association and did not provide proof! With the compensation, he brought the families of the prospective groom and the lucky bride into contact. Let's not forget that the girls were then callously called "bills" (obligation - burden) due to a burdensome cause, the dowry.

Usually without the consent of the "parties" a meeting was set at a relative's house, of common acceptance, it read "neutral field".

Authorized representatives of the families concerned went there, usually the parents and uncles of the "children". During attendance (walking clothes) coffee, ouzo or cognac was offered to the men and loukumi or spoon sweet to the women.

The bazaar began under the light of an oil lamp with a cloudy glass that was hung with a hairpin to prevent it from breaking. Everyone wanted the Asian stock markets to open up! Structured bonds and brokers are blind! For any differences in the valuation of the endowed assets, those concerned turned to local empirical appraisers, but of dubious reliability.

Negotiations did not always end happily. The phrase that "threw", leaving the meeting, the father of the prospective groom, "forty thousand drachmae (at that time the drachma was a hard currency) and in the handkerchief or good night" has remained historical. Love without stubbornness has no taste! "Public opinion" and the "MME" (gossip) of the time did not wait for white smoke to come out, they were satisfied with the controversies that fell, when the contracting parties finally shook hands (it read "legal coincidence of wills").

The common-in-law of... and her... revealed it, they told in the street and in the cafes and the gossip was given and received. The amount of the dowry is a constant question. Did the bride get a dowry? Did he give her the mule too? She took it all, left nothing for her sister... the ruffian! The supremacy of the economic purpose of marriage is obvious and fundamental ...

When the prospective groom lived in another village, it was very likely that the bride-to-be did not know him. In other words, a stranger was visiting her. We are talking about an ad hoc "pig in a sack" case. face book and e - mail were found a little later! The marriages of hetero-residents were impossible to wait, the "love" between strangers was pressing! The RealityShow was delayed by what! Love win the battle ...that leaves the stomach empty!

My father's sister, my real aunt, took a man from the neighboring village whom she didn't happen to know... Her brother went with authorization from his mother, considered genuine! (her father was an immigrant to the USA) and "fired" her. So many olive roots, so many oil, a mule and so many cubits of kapoto... for undead breeches and underpants! Then a term deposit with a floating interest rate was a full jar of "zero acidity, this year's harvest" oil!

When they were approaching the bride's house, the groom and the groom, some on foot, some on half-carts, on whose bonnets they placed fancy covers, my aunt said to her friends who were blocking her as they were also watching the wedding procession from the windows of the house, ... "let's see the babies, let me see who it is", she meant the groom of course, with whom, I say in passing, she lived "painlessly and peacefully and with a good apology" until her death.

It's annoying that she came out a little jehovah and another little "kufalogo" (real flaws). "No error is recognized after removal from the fund".

However my unscrupulous aunt managed to fully secure her rights such as e.g. to go to Church every Sunday, to keep images in selected parts of the house, except for the kitchen! Still militant as she was, she forced her antichrist husband, as she called him "caressingly" taking advantage of his slander, to study the scriptures (the Watchtower and Awake magazines) and wait for Armageddon that would come with the liner, in a predetermined place and time (let's say in the guest house of the house)! The sharpness of these people (Jehovahs) is amazing. I always "admired" them for their directness, even though I couldn't understand them. After all, how can I understand them, since they speak the language of fish fluently from their genitals.

He had also expressly forbidden him to convert! It is well known that proselytizing to Jehovah's Witnesses is like heroin to drug addicts! (Besides, does life have any meaning without a breakfast of fresh "Rizospasti" with its unbridled "popularity"?).

It is noteworthy that he was so blind, that he was able to read the word of Jehovah even to passers-by. We are talking about a harmonious, successful marriage, she spoke, he didn't listen to her (pathological cause) because he only heard Jehovah's voice (religious cause, in other words bigotry) and we lived well...

At that time there were no divorces and no one talked about abandoning the marital home... "You will melt the long-short shirt", said the mullahs of the time, interpreting and strictly observing the traditions. By the word "shirt" they meant the man or the woman, of course, depending on who would be bosikos (defective) according to the criteria of the time.

A unique case of reversal of sale and return of the thing (nymph), due to a real defect, concerned the woman in the case where it was proved that she was not a virgin, i.e. she was "teased" (customary law).

A case of an incapacitated man has not been reported. We missed this! We live for a reputation!

The expert opinion was carried out by the mother-in-law of the bride who "also drew up the relevant report". Specifically, on the day after the first night of the wedding, after the couple got up, the mother-in-law (mother of the groom) would officially enter the pastada at dusk and customarily thoroughly examine the white sheet of the bridal bed. The purpose of the examination was to ascertain the price of the bride which had to be embossed with blood on the white sheet, after the legal rupturing of her hymen by her master and mistress. And "as an innocent lamb at the slaughter of the sea"! In other words, she would leave her yoka, her kanakari, unprotected, at the mercy of God, to get some karaputana! What is the value of life without a clean slate?

According to the then unwritten code of civil procedure, the bride was prohibited from raising objections or appointing a technical adviser.

In case of any disagreement, the sheet was relevant to the case file. There are cases that went to file because it was not proven (probable) that the disputed sheet turned red with the blood of a slaughtered rooster, as falsely claimed by the groom's stepmother!

With the development of surgery, the roosters were spared and we reached virgin surgery and we lived well and the Somali virgins better!

Today a "subtle" differentiation is observed since then. The more relationships the otherwise prosperous but "teased" bride mentions in her resume, the more experienced and suitable she is considered for marriage! In order to facilitate transactions, the word "mixed virgin" has also been established to characterize the anerasti, the sexually retarded woman, the potentially old woman, rather the milder big girl. In other words, we have a case of complete reversal.

The virginity went from praise to shame. You saw feminism, great things! On the other hand I wonder even today, isn't it a very barbaric thing to slaughter an innocent bird (rooster) to save a marriage?

The wedding celebrations were unique, unrepeatable. The wedding was a serious social event and almost the whole village took part in it, since they were more or less related to each other.

The songs sung by the women who accompanied the bride still ring in my ears, "inflamed lily of the valley where your flowers are." "Let's take the teacher and take her to the islands." "Two suns and two moons came out today, the one on your face the other in the clouds" ... and many more as the bride approached her voluntary passion, i.e. her social integration. She would no longer be called Maria, Anna, Sofia, but Yorgina, Kostaina, Mitchaina, and all the joy was hers and nothing else!

Growing up I was informed by a "valid source" that there were love marriages and I began to suspect, search and read. In Greek and foreign literature I found love stories that shocked me. Much later I watched these love stories adapted for the cinema.

In practice I found it difficult to find comparative data. I have to admit that I have met couples who told me that they got married for love. Along the way, however, they found that love burned and evaporated between the street market, supermarket, clean house and customary visits to uncles and other relatives everywhere.

The tables with invited parents also played a corrosive role, who instead of getting to know each other better, observed, commented and evaluated everything, as if the newlyweds had submitted an application to get a subsidy from the EEC.

If, despite hope, love could withstand the first tests, other endurance tests (test drive) followed, such as e.g. the baby's crying at night that would stop if you washed him and changed his nappy - pants. Placing the diaper required care. There have been reported cases of the awake parent placing the diaper over the baby's face. The crying stopped immediately, despite the increased risk of suffocation!

Burnt "homemade" food doesn't always cause extreme weather at a wedding. In addition to the savior salad, there are also the "rough" eggs, kebab shops and pizzerias that have been performing a great social work for years now and have saved many marriages, since according to what is known, love passes through the stomach, whether you eat a pizza or a souvlaki! There is plenty of relevant literature!

It has been experimentally proven that marriage does not break in the kitchen. The final is played in bed without a referee or spectators! It is important to play the ball you know, seriously considering the opponent! No rematch is planned!

The two mothers-in-law act as quasi-arbitration. They judge in the first and last degree "objectively" and according to the ill-conceived interest of their children, any disputes that arise during their shifts. According to established jurisprudence, love grows slowly and marriage is tested daily and dies of unstoppable internal bleeding caused by selfish conflicts and the underestimation of detail, under the heavy shadow cast by the all-consuming monster of habit as a modern Minotaur. But let's look a bit at the serious side of the matter.

It is a fact that things have changed radically since then and the institution of marriage has suffered multiple fractures. I mention the increase in single-parent families and the recognition of same-sex marriage in various European countries. It is difficult to impossible for me to imagine two homosexuals presenting themselves when I lived in the village to the president of the village and asking him ... to come to a community wedding! Snake that ate them!

The most likely and most lenient scenario would be that the coordinated power (president, priest and agro-keeper) with summary procedures, would hang them on the sycamore tree in the square to set an example. Deportation and sterilization of their relatives as collateral punishment not only cannot be ruled out, on the contrary it would be widely accepted by the vast majority of the villagers. Crucify them.

On the part of the Church, litanies and rejoicings would be performed in all four parts of the village, especially in the directions shown by the four ends of the Holy Cross. May God have mercy on us and save us from the evil (kusuri) that has found us, the crushed priest would chant with heartbreak and repeat to everyone's ears "Apetaxamin satan the triskatarato"! What evil is what has found us! How good we are. What sin have we committed? And give him blessings morning, noon, and night, according to the official prescription that the holy fathers who played with their fingers on the subject had foreseen and compiled, with the aim of expelling the abomination. No, we are playing... In spite of all the aphorisms, pastoral rules and anathemas, we are very close to Tilo. Have a nice trip and byon anthosparton! The perpetual Holy Synod casts the first stone...

Let's not forget that the Christians also started their career as persecuted and after they eliminated the Ethnic - Pagans and together with the ancient Greek civilization they led us to the Middle Ages. And we reached Galileo Galilei who never dared to say the phrase attributed to him "and yet he moves", because he was swallowed up by the beasts of the otherwise likeable but bloodthirsty "Holy Examination" who, when it was drizzling, lit a fire somewhere - somewhere and some fire (fire) just to warm her hands! Lord, prison of my mouth...

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I was prompted to write this text by the questions of a friend.